Well, as I'm stretching out my brain cells preparing for my finals, I realized that I learned a lot about myself and college life over the past few months. It's not easy, but it is an experience worth having. Now, I'm not saying that I'm an authority on how to survive the stresses of college. Please, I've had my fair share of break downs during this semester. But, ultimately, I came out on top. And that says something, right? So, take what I'm saying with a grain of salt. But here's my list of lessons/tips for having a decent college experience:
1.) Patience is a virtue.
I know, this is completely out of character for me. I am the poster child for frustration. I get very angry, very quickly. But yelling doesn't always help the situation. I learned, early in the semester, that all it does is make other people more likely to be fucking annoying. So, the next time your neighbors are being obnoxious or the next time there are drunk people stumbling around in the hallway, take a breath. Relax. Wait it out for a few minutes. And, if the noise persists, ask the annoying jerks to keep it down. If all else fails, that's what resident assistants are for.
2.) You don't know them; they don't know you.
This is actually one of the first things I learned. Sometimes, we like to cling to people. We like to find people who we think care about us and we give them the qualities of people who really do care about us. I see it all the time here with girls who have been friends for 2 weeks and they walk around saying how much they love their "best friend." I'm pretty sure I'm the only person who realizes that they know absolutely nothing about each other. But that's beside the point. I wouldn't recommend making choices based off the people who live in your building/on your floor. They don't know you and they don't care about you. College is a time for you to learn about yourself. You can't do that if you're too busy being what other people want you to be. That's what high school is for. Leave it in the past.
3.) Failing isn't cute.
One of my favorite lines that I hear from guys and girls alike is: "Yo, my mom's gonna kill me for failing [insert name of class here]." All I want to does slap them around and tell them that there are much more productive ways to spend $25,000. They come here to screw around and get drunk half the week. That's not cute and it's not smart. It's a waste of time and money and space. Oh, and I forgot to mention that it's a complete waste of oxygen (someone much smarter could definitely manifest in their place). Just go to class, do the work, and the best grades possible. Or, in other words, be a responsible adult. It's much more attractive than being a dumb kid.
4.) All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
Don't think I'm an advocate for locking yourself in the library and doing nothing but reading/studying. I can't even do that, and I'm the epitome of workaholic. Sometimes, a little downtime is all you need to avoid burning out. Me? Well, I go through Pinterest, I write, I read, and I hang out with the boyfriend. It's enough to keep me sane. It takes a little bit of time, but finding a balance makes doing all the work seem...not-so-bad.
5.) Don't leave your paper for the last minute.
When it comes to academics, this is super important. I've seen people get bad grades on papers because they were too immature to write the paper earlier. They didn't want to give themselves enough time to write the best paper possible. However, they definitely found the time to complain about the length of the paper. It's ridiculous. I mean, I'm not unreasonable. If you have a bunch of other work, that's fine. Sometimes, other work is more important. But don't get upset if your grade actually reflects the lack of work you put into it.
It may seem like I'm being overly dramatic and whiny, but after going to school with overly dramatic, whiny, spoiled people, you pick up a few of their bad habits. I'm trying to make the best of experience here. And I've found that following these guidelines really help me. I hope they can help a few other people, too.